Top 4 Ways To Break The Ice When Relationship Problems Arise Post Marriage?
Every couple has to go through highs and lows when in a relationship. When you date someone and fall in love with them, you are so drenched in the beautiful feeling called ‘love’ that you tend to overlook any faults in your partner. Once you get married to this person and spend ample of time together, you begin to find plenty of faults in the same person. These noticeable differences then lead to arguments and an eventual silence finds a place between you and your partner. At such times, it becomes really difficult to break the ice and confront your partner and mend things. Hence, we’ve come up with some tips on how to break the ice when your relationship goes sour post marriage.
In most cases, people, just like you, have absolutely no problem communicating with their partner when they are going through the dating phase. It is because you had only pleasant things to say and hear from one another. Now, you have problems to solve and offenses to talk over. This means you need to learn a new way of communication. For that, you need to master the ‘I’ technique. Earlier in your relationships, you used to say much of ‘you’ things like “you are so great”, “you are lovely, “you are so smart”, etc. Post marriage, it changes to “you are dumb”, “you are lazy”, “you are late”, “you hurt me” and the likes. Now, you need to use better phrases like, “I feel hurt”, “I feel unhappy”, “I feel upset” and such similar things. This way, you’ll be able to exactly tell your partner what your thoughts are and perhaps you can find a solution together.
When you get married and have kids, the time you spend together reduces a lot. You cannot be in a good and warm relationship with someone whom you barely see. Set aside some special time for your spouse. Be active and creative during this time. Enjoy it.