7 Mistakes Parents Make With Children
Have you promised yourself that you will not let your child face the difficulties which you faced as a kid? Yeah, most parents do. But it never happens. Waves of emotion, love and responsibility diminish our ability to make the right decision at the right time. I have outlined top 7 mistakes that parents usually make with their children. If you are making one or if you’re on the course of making one, stop right now! Read along, even if you think that you know all there is to know about parenting. You will be surprised how simple things can affect the relationship you share with your children.
1. Giving less responsibility to children
Many a times, it happens that in the pursuit of showering your love upon the child, you often tend to give him/her less responsibility. I’ve known many people who’ve pampered their children so much that they do everything for them. As a result, the child has no clue about responsibility or self-help. What these parents don’t realize is that, today they are there for their child but what about tomorrow? They forget that they have to make their child an independent individual, not a dependent person. Unless and until you don’t give enough responsibility to your child, and stop pampering him/her, the child won’t be ready to face the outer world.
2. Not adapting with time to understand the current generation
Do you remember how you felt when your folks did not understand your generation? Well, wake up now. You don’t know much about your children’s generation too. Get active, be involved in groups, read latest trends and happenings, and more importantly – learn to think like a teenager. I’ll tell you why. If you don’t adapt yourself to think like your kid does, you will not be able to know what they are thinking or feeling. It makes life difficult.
3. Being too busy for family
Day care, school time, classes, courses, blah blah blah. You may be able to afford the best school or best teacher in town, but nothing can substitute your presence. Do you still remember those wise words your parents told you when you were a kid? Yep, words leave a lasting impression. Spend more time with the kids. Talk, play, go on vacations, have fun – do what you like, but spend more time! This time will never come again and is too precious to let go.
4. Punishing children
Okay okay, before you start making judgments, hear me out. It is very important to infuse the value of ‘law’ within your children. They should know that breaking the rules will have dire consequences. Like, if you have told your kid not to play ball in the house, he still does, and breaks the window; you’ll probably dish out a few harsh words and get the window replaced. Nah, not enough! Make him earn for a new window. Well, not literally, but say something like “You’ll have to do the laundry for a week because you broke the window” When kids learn to obey the law, they become good law abiding citizens.