7 Secrets of Successful Single Moms
Being a single parent can be a tough job. It’s worse when you have more than one child. It’s even worse when you are a woman, because half the time the society takes pity on you and doesn’t take you seriously as a good parent. However, nobody can take away the fact that all over the world, there are innumerable single mothers doing a brilliant job everyday, raising smart and well-groomed kids. Whatever be their circumstances, they are living their life with the determination to make it better each day. And if you are a recently turned single mother seeking inspiration and wanting to know some secrets of being great at the job, here are some tips.
1. Work out priorities
Whether you’ve been widowed and turned into a single mother or whether you’ve divorced recently, it’s really important to get a grip on yourself and work out the priorities of your life. How are you placed financially? What is it that you need to do soon to secure your kids’ future? What are the necessary steps to establish you as a separate entity in the society now? When you start to seek answers to such questions, you prioritize things in your life. In this process, you don’t really find time to sit and crib about the past. You instead move on, and life gains pace quickly for you.
2. Accept your weaknesses
There are some things you won’t be able to do yourself. These could be things you were either not aware of, or your husband was taking care of before you became a single mother. There is no harm in accepting your weakness and seeking help. It could even be professional help that you may need to gain some stability mentally and move forward gradually in life. It’s better to have assistance from trustworthy sources, so that you don’t break down in front of your kids and remain strong.
3. Generate positivity
Don’t create an unnecessary atmosphere of bitterness in the house. You may have divorced your husband for reasons of your own, but the kids are probably not even aware of those issues. In their heads, their dad could still be a hero. So always try and generate positivity in front of them, and make them understand how some things in life may or may not work or how some things don’t come with a guarantee card. Don’t abuse or talk bad about your ex husband in front of them. Also don’t talk ill about your current state, however bad it may be financially or otherwise. Always make them feel good, and before you know it, the process will make you feel good as well.
4. Be open with your kids
Create an atmosphere of openness in the house where everyone has an equal say. Be open about your feelings in front of the kids, and tell them about everything you do, or ask them about their feelings. The more you communicate, the better understanding there will be between you all. Then the kids won’t have to hide their tears when they see everyone else’s parents coming in at the Annual Day, while you go alone. They would in fact know why exactly they have a single parent, and would appreciate that parent’s presence in their life more, rather than cribbing about why they don’t have a Dad.