8 Tips to Develop the Art of Forgiveness
They say forgiveness is a gift that you give to yourself. But sometimes, forgiving yourself or someone else might feel like the most difficult thing to do. It does not mean that you should erase the past, it just means that you let go of the pain and anger and free yourself. Here are some tips to help you develop the art of forgiveness.
1. Leave your grudges behind
The one that you are angry at is not affected by your feeling at all. He or she is happily continuing with his or her life while you are wasting your present in harboring negative feelings. You are the only one who is bearing the brunt of it all. Unless you have the capacity to talk it out, it is best to simply laugh it out and let your grudges go.
2. Keep in mind that no one is perfect
Always remember that though most of us strive for perfection, we are, at the end of the day, mere human beings. And they say, to err is human. Then is it fair on the other person if you expect him or her to never do anything wrong? Since even you are not perfect, what makes you think that the other person should be? The solution to all of this is to forgive and forget.
3. Do not analyze the intention behind others’ actions
If you always try to analyze why someone did something to you or what was his motive behind the act, you will never find the right answer. At times, it is best to just let things go and stop wondering about others’ intentions. It may be so that the other person is not even aware of the hurt that he or she might have caused you. It is completely okay to sometimes give the benefit of the doubt to the other person, just for your own sake.
4. Learn from your experience and let go
No matter how badly someone has treated you, you should understand that in the long run, that experience is only going to make you wiser. If you try to look at the bigger picture, you will realize that there is always something to learn from even the worst of experiences. Once you understand this, you will find it easier to forgive the other person.