5 Things to Do If Your Kid is Getting Bullied by an Older Kid
It is an everyday occurrence when our kids come home from school all stressed out and complaining about bullies. When a child is constantly bullied in school, he feels not only stressed but it can impact his overall development including learning skills. Many kids go through this harrowing experience when growing up. While some of us can look past being bullied each day and concentrate on more important things, there are some kids who take things too personally and it can be detrimental to their health, well-being and over all social life. These are some of the things that you can do to help your child fight bullying.
1. Never over-personalize
It might be difficult to stay without over personalizing, especially when your kid is being bullied by an older kid or other kids. Bullying is not just painful for the kid, but to you as parents as well. You will feel more pain than the kid at times. But there is no point in overreacting, as your focus must be to help your kid out. Just listen to him/her and try to find solutions together. If you react uncontrollably, you might overstep your limits and the result will be negative.
2. Keep your kid away from the hot beds of bullying
If there are certain places in your child’s school like a playground or cafeteria where you find the older kids feasting on the younger ones for some cheap thrill, advice your kid to stay away from the place in the first place. It is always better to avoid being in a tricky situation than looking for solutions when the problem arises.
3. Never blame your kid
If your child is the victim of bullying, never blame him/her for whatever is happening. Some parents mindlessly blame their kids by saying, “You must be doing something, so that they are picking on you.” This will shut down your child completely. It can even affect their self-esteem. Understand that anyone can be the target, and if your child has become one, help him/her to get out of the situation instead of dragging them to the issue again.