5 Things To Do If You Run Into Your Ex
It is inevitable and it is every girl’s nightmare to run into her ex – unless of course your ex is looking like a garbage bag. It takes nerves of steel and quick thinking to react when you run into your ex. How do you react? What do you say? Should you smile? Let’s find out.
1. Be calm
Step one, when you bump into your ex– be calm! Remember, there is no point getting excited or mushy even if you are meeting him after ages. You don’t know what he’s been upto and you don’t know how he is going to react to seeing you. So before you start jumping around, be calm and think to yourself of how the situation may turn out. It will help you think right.
2. Let him smile first
Yes, we know it is hard to contain that shy smile when you see your ex. But that’s not the way to go. Whether you have parted with him on good or bad terms, let him do the greeting. Why do you think we say this? Because his reaction will pave the way for the meeting. If he gives you a dead pan greeting, you are pre-warned about the dull or annoying moment you are about to step into. If he is mature and gives you a smile, you could be in for a surprisingly pleasant conversation. So let him give you the first smile, and you can reciprocate after seeing the expression on his face.
3. Don’t be someone else
We think it is in our nature to try and show him how changed a person you are. Nope, don’t even try. Remember, he knows you inside out and he has seen you at your best and worst moments. You cannot fake it. Even if you do, it will show. Be yourself. It is important to show that you have moved on but it is more important to show that you’ve matured, not changed.
4. Let him ask questions
‘What are you doing these days?’ ‘Are you seeing someone?’ ‘How has work been?’ You may have a lot of questions for your ex. Let us warn you– you will come across as ‘very curious’ if you keep asking all these questions. This may give out wrong vibes. Just think, how would you feel if your ex bumped into you and kept asking you many questions about how you’ve been and what you were upto? Your first reaction would probably be ‘Wow, he was coming on strong’. See what we mean? The key here is to wait for him to do the asking, and then do your own.
5. Be very clear– Yes means yes and no means no!
What would you say if your ex asked you ‘Let’s go out for a coffee and catch up on the old times’ or ‘we should keep bumping into each other like this often’? It is extremely, and we mean very extremely important to know where you stand. If you have moved on and are in a relationship, please stay away. If you don’t mind going out and having a fun time, go for it. Whatever you think right, make sure you give an assertive reply. There is no need to be extra courteous or formal, no means no. Answers like ‘Nah, I’ll pass on the coffee. Thank you. But it was good to catch up here’ will not come out as rude. If he is mature enough, he should get the message.