3 Ways to Solve Family Problems
Your family is the best gift given to you by God, second to your parents. First and foremost, consider your family a boon and celebrate it as the most important element in your life that constructs you. Though you cannot completely get rid of family problems, you can follow 3 simple steps to minimize the damage done.
1. Find out the root cause of the problem
Is it a person? Is it money? Is it trust issues? Is it alcohol, drugs, a rebel teenager…? Just find the root of the problem. Define clearly what exactly is causing the problem in the first place. What you are thinking as the root may not be so, so make sure you identify clearly. For example, money might be the main problem, not the ambition of your teenage daughter to become a fashion designer. In such a case, do not pretend that money is not the main issue. Instead of shouting at her, tell her calmly you cannot afford the course. If you accomplish this, half the job is done!
2. Discuss the problems
Do not leave any family member out when you sit to discuss the problem. When the family is together, a significant bond develops and over the course of the discussion, you will be surprised to find how a solution evolves. It might even be something you never considered! Of course, because you never discussed it! Often, the solution is provided from someone within the family. Be ready for statements like, “Oh, that? Why didn’t you tell me before? This is what you should do…” And you will love your family! Keep in mind, every member in the family has an opinion and all opinions must be considered before coming to a final solution. And truth be told, it will come!
Often the solution arrived at might not be to supported by everyone. But do not hold grudges for your family loves you and it is not that they have not considered your inconvenience; it is only that it is the best solution that could be arrived at. Go ahead, agree with everyone with a smile, compromise, and you will be surprised when you will find that they will go out of their way to make sure your inconvenience is not worsened. A little compromise shows how much your family is worth for you and the love you get back will be overwhelming!
Follow these simple steps and your family will be the best one around.