12 Signs of an Abusive Relationship
When a woman enters a relationship, she thinks it’s the most amazing moment in her life and she’s going to experience many such wonderful moments with her partner. But what if all this was just a dream? A beautiful dream that turns out to be a nightmare for her? Well, there are many women who are suffering in an abusive relationship with their husband or partner. But most of them are in denial or think that their partner will change. However, that’s not going to happen as it’s their partner who needs help. We have given below the signs of an abusive relationship. Know them and take action before it’s too late.
1. Intense jealousy
Jealousy only stems from lack of trust and insecurity. The abuser will be jealous of you spending time with your family, friends, coworkers or children. He will often question you of your whereabouts and accuse you of flirting or cheating with other men. This may turn into refusal to let you go to work or with your friends and family. He wants you to spend all your time with him and no one else.
2. Constant monitoring
The abuser will constantly keep a check on what you do, where you go, what you wear, etc. He will note down the time you leave the house, ask you with whom you were and even tell you what clothes you should wear. He will start controlling your life and dictate on what you should and should not do. He will also check your cell phone’s call log and email or your web browsing history.
3. Separation from loved ones
As mentioned before, the abuser doesn’t like you going to meet your friends or family. So he will slowly, but surely try and isolate you from your loved ones. He will keep you away from work or school.
4. Fast commitment
Abusive relationships usually start in a quick rush of ‘love’. He will say he loves you a lot, has never felt so strongly for anyone but you and so on. He will be utterly charismatic and gentlemanly towards you in the beginning. This will continue until you commit to him unconditionally.
Everyone is responsible for their actions, whether good or bad. But an abuser will never admit so. If he has a problem at his job, he will blame the boss or his colleague. Ultimately, this blaming game will come down to you, where he will find reasons to blame you for every small or big mishap in his life.