10 Reasons You Should Never Take Him Back After He has Cheated on You
Relationships are built on mutual trust. When you are in a relationship, you respect your guy a lot and you expect the same from him. There are so many instances of people cheating on their partners in a romantic relationship. To avoid that, trust and commitment are very important. However, considering that cheating cases surround everyone, it is important for you to ponder over a very important question. Would you accept your guy back after he has cheated on you? Here are a few reasons why you should not.
1. A relationship, once scarred, can never be repaired
These kinds of acts are rarely forgotten. Once a guy cheats on you, you will be left with a lot of insecurities. You will never be able to trust him the same way as before. This will create a lot of bitterness in your relationship. Even if you decide to mend things with your guy and take him back in your life, at the back of your head you will never forget the incident, and very often, this topic would come up during arguments and a lot of fights will revolve around this. To avoid all these mentally frustrating scenarios and have a peaceful life, you should not accept the guy back.
2. Would he accept you back if you had done this?
You need to ask this question to both yourself and him. A lot of men are chauvinists, who are okay with doing this to you, but will never accept you doing this to him. This is hypocritical. You shouldn’t deserve such a man. You deserve to be with a person who puts as much effort and commitment as you put in the relationship. Obviously, these kinds of things cannot be calculated, but you should realize the fact that you can’t be taken for granted in a relationship.
3. Once a cheater, always a cheater
This could be a generalization, but once a guy cheats and is accepted back in the relationship, he will always be tempted to do it again, considering the fact he thinks you don’t have a spine of your own. Since the trust is broken, you will always live in the constant fear of experiencing it again.
4. Having the temptation to stray is normal, acting upon it isn’t
It is extremely normal to fall for other people when you are in a relationship. Attraction is a natural feeling and you do not have control over it. But what is that one thing that you have control over? Your actions! If a person acts upon the temptation to cheat, then he is not a keeper. It not only breaks your heart, but it also means he does not respect the relationship.
5. You accepting him back will give him the ‘confidence’ to do it again
Once you accept the guy back, he would know that he can get away with such things. He will never learn the importance of things like trust, loyalty and commitment. These are some really profound concepts to be truly felt and understood in a relationship.
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