10 Reasons Why You Should Not Kiss and Tell
Kesha has sung the perfect song on how you should not kiss and tell. Heard it? Maybe you should. People who kiss and tell are braggers, and do not realize that it is not a very respectful thing to do. Here are a few reasons why you should not kiss and tell ever.
1. It is a secret between two people
When you get involved with someone, there are always two people in the picture – you, and the person you are involved with. This means that it is for the both of you to decide whether you want to tell people about your relationship and involvement or not. You are not the only person responsible for making decisions; leaking out information can be wrong. Often, by sharing these kinds of things, you put the other person in an embarrassing spot.
2. It might harm you when the news spreads
These kinds of things raise questions about your character. People, whom you tell your experiences about, may seem harmless and trustworthy in the beginning. But these can be the same people who will go around telling everyone about it, and put you in a context that you could have never thought of. You may think that you are telling something to your close friends, but they too will feel the urge to tell their very close friends, and soon this whole thing will get blown out of proportion. Also, every time a person passes on the information to another person, it becomes a different version of what you had originally said. Finally, what remains is an exaggerated, untrue, spiced up version of the story, putting you in a bad light.
3. The goodness of the memory gets killed
A physical encounter can be really memorable. And it should remain so, by all means. By discussing it with various people, we, in some way corrupt the whole moment and belittle it. Some feelings are best when they are not described in words. These are innocent memories that should always be in your head and heart. You will only spoil them by talking about them.
4. Friends can sometimes stress you out
Friends have a tendency to over-think things. They deconstruct everything, and will get after your life to define things and answer where everything is going. Such questions can lead to you taking hasty decisions; and relationships take time to grow. So you should not feel pressurized by other people when it comes to your life and your relationships. And the best way to avoid such stress is to keep things to yourself.
5. The moment should be left as it is
Maybe, a small intimate experience with the guy is all you are ever going to have with that person. In such a case, talking about it will only bring embarrassment to you. You should remember that moment as something pleasurable, and leave it at that. Talking about it will complicate things for you and the person you are involved with. Also, if it reaches many people, you will in some way become answerable to them. And nobody likes to be in a situation like that.