10 Reasons to Let Go of Your Ex
Poet Rainer Maria Rilke said, “We need, in love, to practice only this: letting each other go. For holding on comes easily; we do not need to learn it.” However, it is equally important to let each other go once your relation is over. Here are a few reasons why you must learn to let go.
1. Know that you were happy before you met your ex
After a bad breakup you may feel that you will never feel the same again and that all the life’s joys have vanished. But, do you remember that you were alive before you met your ex-boyfriend? Remember how happy you were in your life before he became a part of it? It is never too late to go back to the way your life was before the relationship happened. All you need to do is let go.
2. Only after you let go, can you begin to move on
Letting go is the first step towards moving on. You may feel after a messy breakup that you cannot ever love again but know that is not true. Love can happen twice and thanks to your experience with your ex, you will be able to handle your next relationship more maturely.
3. Analyzing the past will not help
There is never any right or wrong reason for a breakup. You can spend all the time you want in analyzing why things turned out the way they did and who was at fault, but you will never arrive at a satisfactory answer. This is because all relationships are extremely complicated and there are no right answers.
4. Your mood affects others
Know that if you are sad and depressed the whole day, you are also sucking in those around you. You are spreading your negative energies to those who love you and care for you. And if you sulk for too long, even your friends will leave your side.
5. Give yourself the gift of forgiveness
Forgiveness is a gift that you give to yourself. No matter how ugly the breakup was, try to forgive your ex and yourself. The sooner you do this, the sooner you will be able to have some peace with yourself.